Saturday, September 19, 2009

Thought: Are You Listening?

Hi good day ppl!

Can you hear me ??

Remember during guide/scout meetings/camps when you wanted silence you were to keep quiet yourself & raise your hand up to signal others. After a little while everyone's hand will be up & there will be pin drop silence. Wish we could do that with our non-stop banter in our heads too ;)

This mail was sent by one of my best friends. It was a email introducing a session about Listening.

It contains quotes & a short story. I have highlighted parts which I liked.

Read it ! & Listen IN!

If you wish to grow in the spirit of understanding, you must let the other person talk and prove his point to his satisfaction.

Do not interrupt him, while he is talking.

You know how exasperated you become when someone interrupts you, while you are trying to prove a point.

At committee meetings, these words have been uttered quite often:- "But let me finish!"

Listen more, talk less.

You are made to listen.

That is why you have been given only one mouth and two ears.

If we were meant to talk more and listen less, we would have been given only one ear, right in front, and two mouths on the two sides.

How funny we would look! And, mind you, there is no door with which to close the ears: they are always open.

Before a word can be spoken, it has to cross two fences two rows of teeth and two lips.

Therefore, think twice before you talk. Never forget that of the
unspoken word, you are a master, of the spoken word, you are a slave.

Words, once spoken, cannot be got back.

A villager came to a town, to visit some of his relatives. In villages,
till today, they cleanse their teeth with wooden sticks. When he got up in the morning, the villager asked for one. They told him that in the cities they had only toothpaste tubes. The villager had never handled a toothpaste tube.
As he squeezed it, out flowed a foot-long strip of toothpaste. He was taken aback. "Is there a way to sending the toothpaste back into the tube?" he asked. They said to him:- "No way! Once the paste has come out, it cannot be sent in!" Likewise, words which have been spoken cannot be sent in.

Be a good listener. Therefore, listen not only with the ears, but also
with the heart. Better than talking is listening. And better than listening is to enter the silence within.

The great woman-saint of South India, Avvaiyar, prayed:- "O God,
what is happening to me? I keep on talking and talking, as though there were mouths all over my body! When shall I cease from doing this? When shall I enter into the silence within?"

Listen more !

Lets try this 2-3times a day when we are in meetings, on phone calls, during breaks,at home during dinner,... & see the change! Im sure it will be a positive one & rewarding.

Let us know your experience.

Till then !

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Farewell !

Hi good day!
This post was started at end of last month, finally finishing it up & Publishing it. Read on! :)

Farewell !

It was a tough job to bid farewell to our head, mentor, a good friend. But we tried to take it with a positive twist. "Good Luck" for the next venture in Life.
Have come across some good incidences of bidding farewell. Some are positive, some not so positive :).

One of them I loved was when one of our best friend was getting married. When the time came to say Goodbye, the usual crying,sobbing didn't take over her family. Instead they were laughing,teasing & jovial. They sent her off with a smile on each of their faces. After she left, her mom,aunties,grand parents all started crying. We friends were confused, when we asked them whats all this, they told us
'We are celebrating a good thing in her life-Marriage, so why cry, make her cry & sad. Send her off happily, even though we will feel her absence. This is the way we send off all our daughter in the family'.
What say! Isnt it a gr8 way to say Bye.

The other good one was when our School organised Farewell parties. We were never spoilt by our school with fancy stuff or by emotional gatherings. We too as juniors had organised great Farewell parties, which instead described each students positive points, how they made a difference, thanking them, giving our best wishes for the future followed by dance,gifts,food, & all the gr8 things about partying.

One of the bad or not so good one happens during family gatherings especially I guess in India. You have gone to a family get together & when its time for you to leave, they just wont let you leave. They will coax,force,demand you to stay back for the night or stay for some more hours, forgetting that you may have spent the entire day @their place already & you might have other things to do when you get back home! This gets specially stressful as you cant stay any longer nor hurt anyone's feelings.

Have you come across any such good/bad Farewell incidents?

I like a Farewell song we sang & dedicated to our school during our Farewell: Hasta Manana till we meet again.
It means 'So long, till we meet again'.

Do you know anymore Farewell songs, any language will do?

Let us know. Bye. Take care.